Chapter 30 Job's honour is turned into contempt. (1-14) Job a burden to himself. (15-31) Verses 1-14 Job contrasts his present condition with his former honour and authority. What little cause have men to be ambitious or proud of that which may be so easily lost, and what little confidence is to be put in it! We should not be cast down if we are despised, reviled, and hated by wicked men. We should look to Jesus, who endured the contradiction of sinners. Verses 15-31 Job complains a great deal. Harbouring hard thoughts of God was the sin which did, at this time, most easily beset Job. When inward temptations join with outward calamities, the soul is hurried as in a tempest, and is filled with confusion. But woe be to those who really have God for an enemy! Compared with the awful state of ungodly men, what are all outward, or even inward temporal afflictions? There is something with which Job comforts himself, yet it is but a little. He foresees that death will be the end of all his troubles. God's wrath might bring him to death; but his soul would be safe and happy in the world of spirits. If none pity us, yet our God, who corrects, pities us, even as a father pitieth his own children. And let us look more to the things of eternity: then the believer will cease from mourning, and joyfully praise redeeming love.
Job in this chapter sets forth his then unhappy state and condition, in contrast with his former state of prosperity described in the preceding chapter: things had taken a strange turn, and were just the reverse of what they were before; he that was before in such high esteem and credit with all sorts of men, young and old, high and low, rich and poor, now is had in derision by the meanest and basest of men, whose characters are described, Job 30:1-8; and the instances of their contempt of him by words and gestures are given, Job 30:9-14; he who enjoyed so much ease of mind, and health of body, is now filled with distresses of soul, and bodily diseases, Job 30:15-19; and he who enjoyed so much of the presence of God, and communion with him, and of his love and favour, was now disregarded, and, as he thought, cruelly used by him, who not only had destroyed his substance, but was about to bring him to the grave, Job 30:20-24; all which came upon him, though he had a sympathizing heart with the poor, and them that were in trouble, and when he expected better things, Job 30:25-28; and he close the chapter, lamenting his sad and sorrowful circumstances, Job 30:29-31.
The Me That Was Is Mocking Me Now
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I second Mike C on going straight to HR (or your manager) with this. They will absolutely want to know. Not _only_ because of the bullying, (likely) misuse of company property and breach of IT policies, but also that this is happening on *company time when they are paid to work*. Even the most heartless of bosses and hopeless of companies will recognise that this is bad for business on some level. I bet at a minimum the timestamps on those conversations could demonstrate a WHOLE lot of unproductive time. Times four!
This is mind-boggling to me that people do this. If you have enough time to sit online and talk shit about your coworkers all day, you a) need a life, and b) need more work to do. The fact that this issue is so widespread too makes me think a lot of people around the globe need better jobs and more fulfilling home lives.
I would not feel comfortable working with people who only refrained from mocking me because the manager had told them not to do it, though! Stopping the behaviour is one thing; re-building trust and feeling comfortable working with them is quite another.
and remember that manager who sidelined an expert who was brought in to open a new field, and she was older, so the young clique of people froze her out? They made fun of her on Snapchat, if I remember right.
My understanding was that Marie was saying that OP should get the chance to say something to the offenders on their own; not that the trash talkers should. Presumably because once it gets reported it becomes about how the boss/hr want to handle it. Some people would get satisfaction out of confronting it themselves even if it gave the offenders more warning.
Our IT policy also includes an acceptable use statement that would cover using company resources for trash-talk of fellow employees (i.e., that sort of use is prohibited on company technology and a policy violation).
Simply The Best, I had a similar reaction to you. It might be a movie reference but it still perpetuates the idea that only women are mean and catty. I think some commenters are so eager to get the movie/pop culture reference in that they forget about stereotyping etc.
If nothing else comes of it, they will know that you know and that should at least get them to stop doing it over gchat. You may never get them to stop fully and it sucks that you now know who and what you are dealing with.
As Alison said, it is 100% normal to occasionally vent about your coworkers. Just last week I had to vent to someone about my boss (who is great to work for!) because of something small but very irritating that she did. What these coworkers have done is beyond anything reasonable.
In addition, the boss should CERTAINLY be looking out for them moving this to in person bullying, in which case firing is the only way to go here. But, also, as Alison noted, keeping a very sharp eye on their behavior, performance and judgement. Lastly, if there is reason to think that they might go to personal chat, have IT monitor their computer use.
And even if your co-worker IS just doing this to show off (and not, for example, to share information in a way that he thinks is efficient), mocking him behind his back is MUCH more likely to undermine to your group project than his brown-nosing.
Because this was on a work computer, and your former colleague was stupid enough to both leave it logged in to her GChat, and to not delete the thing in the first place before she left, I think that LW has every right to both bring it up to her supervisors, AND to point it out to colleagues in the ways suggested above. This was all kinds of dumb on their part.
My point is that firstly, the behavior that the OP describes simply cannot be classed as truly awful. But even if it were, ongoing trash talk about it is at best not the appropriate way to handle it. And general mockery of the person AND EVEN THEIR SO means that you are as much of a problem as the coworker.
As one who has endured a variety of bullying throughout my life, I just wanted to extend an internet hug to the OP and also ask that, if he or she can, please so provide updates as appropriate. PTSD from bullying is a thing and I, for one, sincerely hope the OP is all right and comes back from it.
You should absolutely say something. Not because you are vindictive and want to get someone fired (that was not my desired outcome at all) but because that shit is toxic and unacceptable and could be hurting YOUR reputation and poisoning the waters. A good boss will realize this and have your back.
The final straw for me was an insinuation that I was having an inappropriate relationship with one of the male directors because we arrived and left within 5 minutes of each other several days in a row (yes they recorded our comings and goings).
I do think the most difficult part of this will be interacting with your coworkers going forward. But this is a big deal. This is them having compromised trust. Please just remember that they are the ones who have done wrong. You have not.
What. a great update, OP! I am sorry this happened but your growth (about your micromanaging tendency) is so great to hear about! And good for you for blocking people on social media. I have a lot of hope that your next years at this firm will be better!
I do have a tendency to over-promise, and I mentioned this to my manager after receiving this feedback, along with an explanation that I was aware of this issue, actively working to curb/correct it, and would appreciate receiving feedback if it was happening despite my focus on reining it in.
So why are you trying to justify it? Sure, some high achievers have poor social skills in one or more areas, and it sounds like the OP did have a least one thing to learn out of this. But the reality is that if this were really just a couple of otherwise decent people who were irked by a genuine issue in the way the OP behaves, they would not have behaved this way.
I have made my social media private . If I were you I would do the same, and I would unfriend all people from work, no explanations needed. I would also think very hard about what was said about you, IF (and I said IF) you are offending people at work, by being a tattle tale etc, then stop that behavior immediately.
In the fullness of time, I needed to write a new chapter that let a user buy subscriptions. Now, the application has a second thing that can be purchased. And the easiest way to handle that in Rails is to make the relationship between my PurchaseLineItem and the things being purchased polymorphic.
Is the complexity worth it? Is it practical? Or is this just a case of needless complexity being the answer to a problem that only exists because of the needless complexity of using test doubles for unit tests?
For a small application, maybe not. The problem is that all these kinds of encapsulation and indirection arguments seem like overkill on small applications, and pretty much every example you are likely to see in a blog post is a small application. It feels like too much typing, and the gain seems far away.
On the 2nd of July, 1776, the old Continental Congress, to the dismay of the lovers of ease, and the worshipers of property, clothed that dreadful idea [i.e., the idea of total separation of the colonies from the crown] with all the authority of national sanction. They did so in the form of a resolution; and as we seldom hit upon resolutions, drawn up in our day whose transparency is at all equal to this, it may refresh your minds and help my story if I read it. "Resolved, That these united colonies are, and of right, ought to be free and Independent States; that they are absolved from all allegiance to the British Crown; and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain is, and ought to be, dissolved." 2ff7e9595c
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